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Bobi Wine’s contribution follows an attack from events promoter Balaam Barugahara who said it was too shameful for the National Unity Platform (NUP) leader to keep quiet when Lil Pazo, his renown supporter is seriously ill and in dire need of financial support.
Balaam who contributed Shs1 million to Lil Pazo on Friday said at least if Bobi Wine didnot have money he should have mobilised his supporters to bail out the bedridden singer.
Now Bobi Wine on Saturday contributed Shs2 million towards Lil Pazo’s treatment.
The contribution was delivered by Bobi Wine’s younger brother Dax Vibes.
“Coming from bombo military hospital to check on our brother @lilpazoofficial and deliver the President’s #message of 2m,†Dax Vibes said in a Facebook statement.
“The report will be given to you by the President himself though Lil Pazo still needs your prayers and financial support.
NB: Lil Pazo was forcefully taken back to Bombo Military hospital against his and his pregnant wife’s will from Nakasero hospital yesterday*His Nakasero reports show some food poisoning that irritated hiss ulcers.â€
A few days ago, Lil Pazo underwent an operation due to ulcer related complications.
]]>MP blasts government for pushing illegal vehicle tracking project at expense of citizens’ privacyhttps://www.watchdoguganda.com/news/20210731/118366/mp-blasts-government-for-pushing-illegal-vehicle-tracking-project-at-expense-of-citizens-privacy.html Sat, 31 Jul 2021 12:12:09 +0000https://www.watchdoguganda.com/?p=118366Bukoto Central legislator has blasted the government for pushing through the nose the number plate GPS tracker which is intended to cost billions of shillings to the tax payer, as well as individual motorists.Engineer Richard Sebamala has pocked holes in the vehicle tracking project aimed at enhancing security and safety in the country at the back of criminality which has included assassinations for prominent people.
The MP said it should be noted that immediately after the State of the Nation Address, the Bukoto Central MP has been hitting hard against this project which has been awarded to the Russian firm, Joint-stock Global Systems under the project dubbed intelligent transport monitoring system.
While appearing on CBS radio and Kingdom Radio owned by Bishop David Kiganda and few other stations, Sebamala explained the illegality in the vehicle tracking instruction.
“It is an infringement on the privacy of people given under the article 27 section 4 of the constitution of Uganda,†Eng. Sebamala said, adding that the vehicle tracking instruction should be preceded by a proper legal framework.
Comparing the vehicle tracking policy of the United Kingdom, Sebamala said that the UK policy managed to embed five regulations;
1. The human rights act of 1998
2. The data protection act of 1998
3. The protection from harassment act 1997
4. Regulations of investigatory powers Act of 2000
5. General Data protection regulation (GDPR)
However, Sebamala, explains the system in Uganda is illegal and should be dropped immediately and follow the rightful procedure.
He advised that a committee of parliament should be created to benchmark this policy prior to implementation let alone the fact that the elite citizenry believes that the intentions of the government to track vehicles are beyond security and their safety. Sebamala said that at the heart of this project is human surveillance and he wondered why this sensitive matter should be hurriedly implemented.
Sebamala is in complete disagreement with the fact that tonnes of money will be dispensed to a foreign company yet our Ugandans can ably put this under implementation using our IT university departments and other experts. The government therefore is depriving Ugandans of jobs they can earn from, if this policy is implemented.
“In these hard times of Covid, it is not time for the country to dispense billions of money to foreign companies but rather to consolidate everything that can be saved. This looks like a lucrative deal for a few well-known government officials.
In the aftermath of the assassination attempt on Works minister, Gen Katumba Wamala, the President said in the state of the nation address that Uganda would be mandated to install the tracker at their number plate at their own expense.
]]>DR. INNOCENT NAHABWE: Education Vs Learning: Yes, some tycoons didn’t go to school but they are highly learnedhttps://www.watchdoguganda.com/op-ed/20210731/118354/dr-innocent-nahabwe-education-vs-learning-yes-some-tycoons-didnt-go-to-school-but-they-are-highly-learned.html Sat, 31 Jul 2021 11:41:33 +0000https://www.watchdoguganda.com/?p=118354The UCE Exams are out and all that is in the media is people in jubilation. Of course we won’t see the ones that failed.We live in a world of winners. We praise the victors/winners and forget the losers.
Parents and schools go over the moon about their children’s success in examinations. Often these same excelling students go on to excel at university. Unfortunately, it doesn’t follow that they will succeed in the University of Life. It’s a totally different ball game. It’s no longer what it used to be where all you had to do was excel in class. I was surprised last week when I saw an appeal on Whatsapp groups that Makerere’s best student who got the highest mark and best first class was still on the streets (to mean jobless) many months after school. Gladly, an audit firm took him on as an intern. Many aren’t as lucky. They do their best in school, study hard, excel but still suffer to get going in life; their great grades notwithstanding! Someone I was paying fees for, recently asked me why I always told him a lie that school was the key to success.
He wondered whether the padlock had been changed after he was done with school. I had no answer. Jobs are hard to come by. You can walk these streets for ever till you wear your shoe soles off but, all in vain. Even knowing someone who knows someone who knows someone who is a descendant of the descendant might not help.
Meanwhile, those who didn’t go to school or failed along the way, seem to fair better without books. The boy, who, dropped out in S.2 when Maths started getting complicated and joined the boda boda business, probably, now has his own house and a family. Joan, who dropped out in S.3 because she got pregnant by the Chemistry teacher, started a kiosk, and now has a supermarket chain. Kuraish who dropped out to join his dad’s garage after failing to get 50% in English, probably, now is a big time spare parts dealer. Sometimes, it appears that school gets in the way of success. Funny, isn’t it?
Well, here is why I think that is the case. When you drop out of school, usually, you deal with shame for a short time and eventually get on in the tough University of Life. The University of Life is cruel but doesn’t usually fail you. In this place, you learn how to survive, save, bargain, and identify leads. ‘You learn by doing’, as is the motto in one school in Kabale. If you survive, often the mistakes are so painful that the lessons cannot be forgotten. Because you don’t know a lot of Maths, you are not bogged down by projections, ROI and risk analysis among other complications. You come across a deal that makes sense, and with money at your disposal, you invest and watch it grow.
You also don’t have “standardsâ€. No work is too much for you. You don’t worry about being seen in a market, bargaining for lunch. You can stay in a Muzigo (shanty single room) in a slum. You can walk to and from work because it’s very near. Because you don’t have many OBs to entertain and soaps to watch, you are totally focused on your hustle. You also have low cost of living, allowing your business to grow. Most educated people have a particular society expectation they have to fulfil which makes it hard to do some dirty business. We are too cool to fry cassava, sell boiled maize and work in a garage or drive a taxi. Our ‘levels’ deny us a chance to learn the dynamics of running a business from first principles. Our education denies us opportunity to learn practically in the University of Life. Failure is the best teacher, remember! School trains us to excel to an extent that we don’t know how to handle failure yet in real life that happens, so often.
There are hundreds of successful people that haven’t gone far in formal education. Off cuff, we have people like Mulwana, Sudhir Ruparelia, BMK, Gordon Wavamuno, Steve Jobs and Amos Wakesa, to mention but a few. Many of these have gotten honorary doctorates for excelling in their fields. What we are often not told is that these great men and women have actually done a lot of learning. They might not have had lots of formal education but they definitely have an unbeatable record in the University of Life. They have hands on experience for many years and excelled. They are experts in their field.
So, excelling in school alone may not do it for you in the current situation. You might need both. Many will end up like me, never really practicing what you studied. It will take both the school excellence and the other skills to help you break through the real world. Time to ask yourself; what is that extra skill that I have? Which one can I get and excel at? Remember it’s never too late to learn.
Congratulations to the excelling students.
]]>Men and women in Uganda share similar perspectives on health issues-Twaweza reporthttps://www.watchdoguganda.com/news/20210731/118356/men-and-women-in-uganda-share-similar-perspectives-on-health-issues-twaweza-report.html Sat, 31 Jul 2021 10:47:04 +0000https://www.watchdoguganda.com/?p=118356Kampala: The Ministry of Health and Twaweza are coming together to share critical information about men and women’s perspectives on health issues amid significant case numbers and fatalities from Covid-19 in the country.Twaweza collected data from citizens across the country and residents of Kampala, Kyotera and Tororo to understand men and women’s opinions and experiences of health services in Uganda. The data being shared were collected nationally in December 2020 from 1,590 respondents and from 768 residents of Kampala, 639 residents of Kyotera and 622 residents of Tororo in June 2021.
Twaweza has been collecting data around citizens’ knowledge, opinions and behaviours around Covid-19 since May 2020 to support government efforts to combat the pandemic.
Both men and women cited health issues and diseases as the country’s primary issue in December 2020.
However, women (49%) are slightly more likely to name health issues than men (44%). Women are also a little more likely than men to point to concerns with unemployment, while men are slightly more likely than women to point to corruption or inequality as problems. Overall, these differences are minor:
generally country’s significant issues, men and women share similar views on the country’s major issues.
Women are generally more likely to notice gaps in healthcare services given their role as caregivers in families and communities and because of their often more frequent interactions with this sector during pregnancy, childbirth and child-rearing. In this area, there have been downward trends in the critical area of treatment for special groups.
Policy in Uganda indicates that pregnant women, those over 60 and children under five are entitled to free treatment and care from government facilities.
However, citizens who report that this policy is in practice dropped between 2018 and 2019: more pregnant women (75% compared to 62%), children under five (68% compared to 62%), and elderly citizens (62% compared to 56%) received free care in 2018 than in 2019.
In addition, Ugandans overall observe significant increases in social ills during the Coronavirus pandemic. Around half of or more citizens see increases in physical violence (51%), emotional violence (51%), sexual violence (46%), teen pregnancy (79%), alcohol consumption (58%) and drug abuse (49%).
Interestingly, women and men are united in the perception that challenges facing women have increased during the pandemic. Similar proportions of men and women report increases in physical
violence (men: 49%, women: 54%), emotional violence (men: 49%, women: 53%), sexual violence (men:
43%, women: 49%), and teen pregnancy (men: 79%, women: 78%).
Although women are slightly more
likely to report increases in all of these problems except teen pregnancy, the differences are not sharp.
Given that these are largely acts that are perpetuated by men on women, it is noteworthy that men also observe these increases.
When it comes to the Coronavirus specifically, women and men in the three high-risk districts express similar views around their risk of exposure to the Coronavirus, except in Kampala, and around their confidence that they would get the help they needed if they contracted Covid-19, except in Tororo. In
Kyotera, 4 out of 10 women (37%) and men (38%) think that it is not at all likely that they will be exposed to the risk of catching Covid-19 from their daily interactions, while in Tororo, 38% of women and men express the same confidence.
In Kampala, however, women (40%) are more likely to feel that they are not at risk of catching the Coronavirus than men (31%).
But there are much ,more significant differences in geography than gender when it comes to citizens’ confidence in their ability to get the care they need if they contract Covid-19. In Kampala and Kyotera, half of men (Kampala 54%, Kyotera 48%) and women (Kampala 50%, Kyotera 49%) are not at all or not
very confident they would get treatment, while in Tororo, both men (62%) and women (69%) are very or somewhat confident of accessing services if they do catch Covid-19.
Although women in Tororo are slightly more positive than men, the differences between the three districts are much higher than the differences between genders.
Violet Alinda, Twaweza Uganda Country Lead and Director of Voice and Participation, said, “Experience
from around the world during the Covid-19 pandemic has shown us that women bear the brunt of the burden as caregivers but also during the confinement of lockdowns with increases in gender-based
violence. Yet citizens’ own reports show that men and women share similar perspectives on the challenges of the health sector generally and the particular impacts to women of the pandemic and
lockdown measures.These shared perspectives provide an important opportunity for an open and inclusive discussion around gender norms in our society more broadly and how we can better support our women as they care for our families andbcommunities yet often find themselves unsafe in their own homes.â€
Dr. Richard Mugahi, Ass. Commissioner Reproductive and Infant Health, Ministry of Health said, “The Government of Uganda is keenly aware of how women have faced a disproportionate burden when it comes to the pandemic. We are pleased to see that men have also observed these challenges and look
forward to trying to advance the discussion around gender and women’s roles in our families, communities and societies.â€
Looking in surprise, two boys; Emmanuel Wefafa and Cyrus Kituyi born from Namisindwa District shade tears upon receiving the news about their successful results.
Wafafa scored 14 points while Kituyi scored 12 points. They were both students of Trinity Senior Academy at Bwebajja in Wakiso District.
Wafafa, the eighth child among 18 siblings scored aggregate 8 from Butsemayi Primary School, formerly in Manafwa had failed to join secondary school due to his parents’ inability to pay for his school fees.
“We were many in the family and my father, Anthony Wesswa is a primary teacher and in a UPE schools. He could not raise money for all of us. I studied in ten schools and I would leave each school with a debt until I completed primary school,†Wefafa narrates.
He reveals that after receiving his results in 2016, despite being one of the best pupils, Wefafa did not join secondary school until 2017 and he missed a term until a sympathiser connected him to Emma Wanyama, the director of Pure Hearts Organisation.
Wefafa said that the organisation has helped him to pay fees and facilitated his study leading to the best grades.
“I want to be an epidemiologist to help my country fight epidemics. Pure Hearts is my mirror to the society by identifying and helping us the poor children explore our potential,†he says
Wefafa narrates how Pure Hearts organisation has been kind, caring and groom him into a responsible young person encouraged to his best to serve the country.
Kituyi, 18, on the other hand says he scored aggregate 14 in 2014 after a long struggle for school fees; “I did casual labour to get school fees to complete primary school because my parents are unable to raise any money.â€
“We are 14 children and getting school fees was a problem. After P.7, my hope to join secondary education was gone and I decided to work on someone’s farm raring animals until 2017 when I found a group of people who had got stuck on the road in our village and helped them. They asked me about myself and I told them I was not schooling, they picked me up and brought me to school,†he recalls.
Kituyi says that he is pursuing to become a medical doctor to help in building a healthy country and also improve people’s wellbeing.
Wefafa and Kituyi are part of the hundreds of children who secured a second chance to pursue their education career after they were identified and co-opted by a charitable body, Pure Hearts Organisation, based in Muyenga, Makindye Division in Kampala.
To Emma Wanyama, the founder and director of Pure Hearts Organisation, the success of the youngsters in the national examinations is the ultimate goal for the organisation.
Wanyama, a medical doctor explains that the organisation was started six years ago in response to then scaring statistics that revealed that over 50,000 hopeless children are living on streets.
“I was at some point a victim of same situations after having grown up with my grandmother who was very old. After scoring aggregate 5, I ended up on Mbale streets because I did not have school fees to continue with school,†he says.
He recalls that his sister picked him up from Mbale but dropped him Kampala where he lived on streets for one and half years until a wealth man picked him up and returned him to school.
“I felt rejection and I was desperate to do anything for survival. People on the streets have no choice and I had lost hope and the worst moment was during the outbreak of typhoid and I was only saved by a street preacher,†said Wanyama revealing that upon being helped to succeed, he started the charity to help youngsters explore their potential.
“It was sympathy that I am able to share and I am strong. I started this programme as a way of a bigger purpose to create change and shaping the country’s future by supporting young vulnerable scientists to obtain scholarships and study materials to reduce school dropouts,†he said.
]]>URSB tips innovators on how to exploit their creativityhttps://www.watchdoguganda.com/business/20210731/118345/ursb-tips-innovators-on-how-to-exploit-their-creativity.html Sat, 31 Jul 2021 09:09:07 +0000https://www.watchdoguganda.com/?p=118345Transformation of Uganda into a modern, prosperous society as laid out in the National Development Plan III will largely depend on how fast Ugandans can harness, protect and utilize intellectual property in a manner that encourages innovation and creativity.As part of the strategy to promote the realization of this goal, the Uganda Registration Services Bureau (URSB) Registrar General, Mercy Kainobwisho on Friday delivered a virtual presentation themed ‘The role of Uganda’s IP policy in nurturing innovation for social economic development’. The webinar aimed at enhancing awareness and building capacity for IP to support national development through the creative sector of the economy.
According to the World Intellectual Property Organization (WIPO), intellectual property refers to creations of the mind, inventions, literary, and artistic works, symbols, names, images, and designs used in commerce. IP is divided into two categories, industrial property which includes inventions (patents), trademarks, industrial designs, and geographic indications of source; and copyright which includes literary and artistic works such as novels, poems and plays, films, musical works, artistic works such as drawings, paintings, photographs and sculptures, and architectural designs.
In her presentation, the Registrar General, noted that intellectual property is a product of innovation, which is tied to Uganda’s strategic objective to propel the country to middle-income status. ‘Intellectual property is one of the single largest opportunities for companies to increase strategic business value, create new business opportunities, accelerate barriers to entry for competitors. IP represents a significant, untapped opportunity for revenue generation’. Kainobwisho said.
“Business enterprises irrespective of size must be innovative to remain relevant and competitive locally, regionally. However innovators need to protect their intellectual property in order to gain from their creativity’’ She added.
Intellectual Property supports the transformation of the economy through harnessing of the benefits accrued to rights holders such as creating opportunities for employment of the youth and providing solutions through commercialization of innovations.
To support IP growth across the country, Cabinet in May 2019 approved the National Intellectual Property Policy whose objective is to stimulate and nurture innovation and creativity for socio-economic development of the country. The policy also aims at facilitating integration of intellectual property into national priority sectors and programs towards realization of national development goals.
The Registrar General in her presentation outlined the pivotal role the national IP policy will play in promoting IP as a tool for all-inclusive transformation of academia, creative, informal, public and private sectors of the national economy.
“The government of Uganda is well aware of the benefits and role that Intellectual Property can play to accelerate the socio-economic development of our country.
The passing of the national IP policy aimed at stimulating effective and strategic use of Intellectual Property in all sectors in order to attain rapid economic developmentâ€, Kainobwisho added.
The Registrar General in her discussion tipped inventors on how they can promote their innovations, the need to protect IP creations through trademarking, copyrighting and other related rights, how to address challenges created by violation of IP for ICT innovators, empowering innovators to safeguard their solutions/products and promoting transfer of technology through patents.
The emergence of COVID-19 has had an effect on businesses with many small and medium enterprises (SMES) across the country working towards countering the challenges brought upon by the impact of COVID-19.
The pandemic has however also presented them with opportunities to create solutions such as medicine and drugs, protective gear, sanitary products, creating significant intellectual property assets that need to be protected for the benefit of their creators.
URSB is undertaking more engagements under their ‘innovation series’ to explain further how such SMEs can enhance their businesses through exploiting the full benefits of their intellectual property.
]]>Lord Mayor Lukwago highlights 9 areas Museveni failed to properly address as he eased the lockdownhttps://www.watchdoguganda.com/news/20210731/118342/lord-mayor-lukwago-highlights-9-areas-museveni-failed-to-properly-address-as-he-eased-the-lockdown.html Sat, 31 Jul 2021 08:29:41 +0000https://www.watchdoguganda.com/?p=118342The Lord Mayor of Kampala Capital City Erias Lukwago has punched holes in President Yoweri Museveni’s Friday night address on Covid-19.Following the expiration of the 42 days of lockdown, the President yesterday addressed Ugandans on the way forward where he partially opened up some sectors of the economy.
Museveni among others allowed Kikuubo, malls, arcades, public transport, boda bodas to resume business while strictly following Standard Operating Procedures (SOPs).
He on the other hand, kept schools, places of worship closed saying that they will only be opened after finding a sustainable solution that can limit the spread of the virus such as mass vaccination.
However, to Lukwago, the President’s speech had a lot of loopholes that it left many imponderables lingering his mind.
Lukwago said;
As many of you are gathering pieces to get back on your feet and resume business, albeit with a multitude of challenges, there are lots of imponderables lingering on my mind;
1) How the Kikuubo Lane, hitherto the county’s main commercial hub, is going to be turned into an exclusively wholesale and “petty-trader-free†zone.
2) The Country’s capacity to vaccinate the over 15 million learners before opening the schools.
3) Even when schools eventually re-open and a mechanism is worked out for the two sets of learners in each class study in shifts, the capacity of the struggling tertiary institutions to accommodate all the learners who will be progressing at a go.
4) The Landlord-tenant issues, especially in arcades and malls, which were never addressed in the new proclamation .
5) The chocking tax tarriffs which have not been revised in the wake of the prevailing crisis and the high cost of capital investment. Note that the Bank rate was reduced to 6.5% but the commercial bank rate was never revised down.
6) What of a comprehensive economic recovery program and interventions to resuscitate the collapsing economy?
7) The capacity of the law enforcement agencies to police the entire country to ensure that only 20 people attend burials, Boboda carry only one passenger, taxis and buses operate at half capacity, bars and saunas don’t operate, curfew at 7pm etc.
8) Oba what crime did our musicians commit?.
9) Why are these measures, well intentioned as they may be, never discussed in parliament as required under constitution before being rolledout?
10) etc
Anyway, let’s keep our hopes alive and keep safe.
]]>Outrage as Education ministry appoints only Christian officers to head Islamic Religious Educationhttps://www.watchdoguganda.com/news/20210731/118334/outrage-as-education-ministry-appoints-only-christian-officers-to-head-islamic-religious-education.html Sat, 31 Jul 2021 08:09:17 +0000https://www.watchdoguganda.com/?p=118334The Ministry of Education and Sports has come under public criticism after appointing only Christian officers to head the Islamic Religious Education (IRE) in the country.The Education Service Commission under the Ministry of Education on 19th July, 2021 appointed Abong Geoffrey, Najjemba Barbra, Nakanjako Erinah and Nankungu Annet as the new Education officers for IRE.
However, the Ministry’s move has rubbed a section of Muslims a wrong way who say that the positions deserved to be filled by people who align to the Islamic faith since they understand their religion better.
“I really don’t know the importance of Uganda Muslim supreme council walai,†a one Sawiya Ismah said.
Jimmy Ntare wondered, “Those saying mbu Qualifications, ain’t there Muslims who have studied that can’t qualify for IRE?â€
Yusuf Mafabi asserted, “Religion is a faith, not a profession. If you don’t believe in it, you have no business teaching it. It’s like getting an NUP member to go and teach NRM or FDC members how to love their party, or the reverse. Our leadership must have outrightly opposed this nonsense like our Christian brothers have always done. But if you have leaders whose only job is waiting for the month of Ramadhan to go and eat free food in state house, just know you are doomed.â€
†If they can send Christians to be ambassadors in uea with zero knowledge about speaking Arabic so doing that it’s not case to them,â€Ritah Serenum added.
However, some people have since defended the Ministry saying that IRE, just like any other subject requires qualifications and professionalism not faith.
Henry kizza Shadrack said,†It’s not about being a moslem IRE is studied just like any other thing.. I was always the best in IRE yet am a Christian.. Tujeeko obujega naawe.â€
Defever O Martin Wodnam remarked, “It’s a big problem if there were qualified Muslim teachers who had applied for the job and weren’t given. Otherwise, there’s no problem if the only available qualified teachers were Christians.â€
Moses Ssenyonjo said, “It’s fine if they passed the exams and interview.â€
“They appoint professionals not religious ideologies,†Muyirima Starlone Derick noted.
]]>Rukh- Shana Namuyimba throws in towel after turbulent years at dfcu bankhttps://www.watchdoguganda.com/news/20210731/118331/rukh-shana-namuyimba-throws-in-towel-after-turbulent-years-at-dfcu-bank.html Sat, 31 Jul 2021 07:22:36 +0000https://www.watchdoguganda.com/?p=118331Rukh- Shana Namuyimba has thrown in the towel as dfcu Manager Communications and Events.According to the bank management, Namuyimba’s departure follows her notice of resignation from her position which she has held for the last four and a half years.
The media personality joined dfcu in January 2017 at a time when dfcu’s purchase of Crane Bank had attracted bad publicity, mainly online.
She started off role by threatening to sue some online publications before arrangement escalated the bank’s bad publicity.
“As the Manager Communication & Events, Rukh-Shana has been responsible for the planning and execution of the Bank’s communication strategy. In her capacity, she has supported several initiatives including Brand campaigns, Corporate Social Responsibility, Digital and Marketing Communications, as well as Internal Staff Communications,†Veronica Sentongo Chief Change and Innovation officer dfcu Bank said in the statement.
“Rukh-Shana’s professionalism, skills and work ethic have played a significant role in propelling the dfcu brand to where it stands today. We are honored to have worked with Rukh-Shana over the past four and a half years; her commitment to the business has been unquestionable and her work; consistently excellent. We thank her for going above the call of duty on numerous occasions and wish her the absolute best as she takes on the next phase of her journey,†Sentongo added.
]]>Why your husband is having an affair with that ugly womanhttps://www.watchdoguganda.com/entertainment/lifestyle/20210731/118257/why-your-husband-is-having-an-affair-with-that-ugly-woman.html Sat, 31 Jul 2021 06:06:42 +0000https://www.watchdoguganda.com/?p=118257As much as it sickens me to admit, I have been the other woman in two separate relationships. Please keep the heckling to yourself. Believe me, this is not something I am, by any means, proud of and is far from the woman I am today.But, a question was posed, “Why do men always cheat with uglier woman than their significant other?†After I got over the initial sting of being labeled “the uglier one,†it got me thinking why this is, in most cases, the truth.
Why was I always picked as the back-up plan and never the leading actress? I wouldn’t say it was my physical appearance that was “uglier,†though I’m sure that’s up for debate, but I would say emotionally I was hideous. This is like lamb chops to a lion for cheating men. Men don’t want to put more elbow grease into a relationship. They already have the trophy girl; they want someone who is going to be up for: waiting by the phone for the calls day in and day out, sneaking around, never going on actual dates and feeling miserable about themselves. Now, who better for this than girls who already feel miserable about themselves?
In most cases, men aren’t looking for someone to “date.†They are looking for someone to have sex with and feed their egos. They aren’t going to go hunting for beautiful, successful, put-together women at business functions. They are going to find someone who’s crying into their beer at a crusty saloon. That girl is prime picking for the “other woman.â€
These girls are so desperate for attention that they will blindly believe the: my-wife-is such-a-bitch-and-I’m-filing-for-divorce-next-week line of bull. They don’t think they deserve better than getting stood up night after night and truly believe that the one night a month/year they get with their lover is heaven on earth.
All I can hope for is that one of them is reading this right now and realizing that, “Holy crap, that’s me!†Don’t be someone’s second-best. Don’t do that to another woman. There is no one on this earth who deserves the pain of being in this disgusting situation. You deserve better. You are better than that. I know what you’re thinking, “Being with them is better than being alone.†Is it? Really? You like this feeling? I didn’t think so.
Paired Life
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